Red flags that you’re dating a Narcissist. It often starts with a practice called “love bombing.” Here’s what to look for — and how to get out.
It began with a simple email to a colleague. We’d never met before as he worked in a different state, but I needed to reach out with a question related to work. Our email exchange was surprisingly pleasant as we shared a similar background, but I didn’t really think much of it at the time. It wasn’t until I arrived at my desk the next morning to see an email from him that I felt a shift in our dynamic. In the 12 hours since our previous correspondence, he’d Googled me and discovered some facts about my life and career. He was apparently quite in awe of what he’d learned.
I was flattered by his note. Reading the words, “You are amazing, why haven’t you taken over the world yet?” made my heart race a little. Finally, I thought, someone sees my value. I thanked him and went on to describe all the ways in which world domination had eluded me thus far. My tone was sarcastic and self-deprecating. I thought we were joking around.
His response was unapologetically earnest: “I can fix that.” But he didn’t stop there. “You are the most incredible person I’ve ever met and together we are going to get you everything you want.” This wasn’t a normal Tuesday for me. Though I didn’t realize it at the time, this was the start of a process called Love Bombing.