IF YOU’RE COMMITMENT PHOBIC, THESE TIPS FROM LICENSED PROFESSIONALS WILL HELP YOU GET OVER YOUR FEAR.
“Am I with the right person?” is a question most of us have asked ourselves at one point in a relationship. For you, it might sound like “Will this last?” “Am I settling?” or “Is one person enough for a lifetime?” However, you phrase it, committing to someone for life may seem like one of the scariest and most daunting aspects of “adulting.” A 2018 survey by eHarmony found that the top three reasons why millennials, in particular, have a fear of commitment are: uncertainty over whether a partner was right for them (39 percent), fear of opening up and potentially being hurt again (38 percent), and a lack of confidence in their own ability to maintain a successful relationship (35 percent).
Old, young, male, female, or anyone in between may have a fear of commitment. However, men in particular report worrying at higher rates. Men fear that committing to one person means saying no to future seemingly “better” options around the corner. The fear of settling and removing the opportunity to be with the next best thing can keep men feeling stagnant, disconnected, and paralyzed with anxiety.